Even in the twenty-first-century female masturbation is considered a distasteful subject. Even reading about it can bring uncalled-for looks by people you don’t even know. Talking about it to someone is out of the question, so learning how to finger yourself and masturbate can be a difficult task.
Research shows that women masturbate as much as men, so it is essential to address the topic. Female masturbation is a little more complicated than males. If you do not do things correctly, you can result in sores, and you might feel uncomfortable instead of satisfied.
So this article will address the so-called “taboo” topic and teach you exactly how you should please yourself.
7 Crucial Tips on How to Finger Yourself
While the most critical factor by leaps is being comfortable with whatever you are doing, there are a few tips universal to all female orgasms. Follow these tips for a chance to feel the best orgasm of your life:
1. Explore Your Nether Regions
The first step towards successful self-pleasure is to know your body. There are a lot of parts that you may not know the names of, but that doesn’t matter as long as you know how to “use” them. You need to know your body more than you need to know the scientific terminology.
While it would have been great if sex-ed in school took a more informative role than a restrictive one, you do not need to worry. Here are a few significant bits of your anatomy that you should be aware of explained:
Vulva
This is the outer area of your lady parts. The main things that make up the vulva are your clitoris, the labia lips, and the entrance to the vagina. The shape of the vulva is commonly like an almond, pointed on top and roundish at the bottom.
Clitoris
People usually think that the clitoris is just the bean-like part they find on the top of the vulva. It is way more than that. It extends underneath, and there are countless nerve endings all around it. Each organ in the body has its purpose, but the only goal of the clitoris is to provide pleasure.
Vagina
Most people think that the nether regions as a whole are called the vagina. But in reality, it is the muscle passage between the vulva and the base of the uterus.
2. Relax
The concept of fingering yourself is scary and awkward at first. So this is one of the first problems women have to deal with when they learn how to finger themselves. While it is always a good idea to be careful, being nervous and stressed has never helped anyone.
Orgasms are a game of patience, and it seems to run out pretty quickly in women trying to masturbate for the first time. They keep putting pressure on themselves to make something happen. And this starts having the exact opposite effect! Instead of getting closer to an orgasm, you seem to get even farther away.
The formula to get relaxed is different for everyone. While some feel more relaxed after a session of exercise, others take a bath and listen to a bit of music. So discover what your happy place is and chill out a bit before you try to touch yourself. Once you think you want to do this, try it out!
Other than relaxing yourself mentally, it would be best if you made yourself comfortable physically too. It does not necessarily have to be a couch or a bed where you can finger yourself. You can go into the bath or a shower if it feels better there.
3. Arouse Yourself
Once you are sufficiently comfortable, it is time to get to business. However, you do not need to go at it right away, especially if the thought of fingering does not arouse you. So, just like you need foreplay before sex, you need to start by teasing yourself.
There are several erogenous zones around your body. You would know because some places of your body are very sensitive and fun to touch. Common erogenous zones around your body are your neck, inner thighs, the skinny area above your love handles, and breasts.
There will always be a stigma around things that make you feel good. Other than masturbation, porn is on the hit list too. There is nothing wrong with watching some porn to turn yourself on. If the boys can watch it, why can’t you? It will make you ten times more aroused instantly. So turn up the heat and get wet. You need it!
As you turn yourself on, you might get eager to get to the fingering part, but the more you let yourself stew in the feeling for a bit. All this buildup and sexual tension that is developing are exactly what you need for an orgasm.
4. Gradually Pleasure Yourself
Sex toys can be an excellent new way to introduce newcomers to the world of sexual pleasure. But it can make you dependent on them, and you may never learn how to use your fingers to do that for you. Using a toy can take out the significance from the moment, and you need to know self-pleasure if you want someone else to pleasure you right.
Slowly bring your hand down and massage your clit as soon as you feel you are aroused enough. Start rubbing your clitoris gently. A circular motion with a finger does the trick for most women. You can also try brushing the tips of your fingers from one end to the other over the hood of the clitoris.
It would help if you tried different things to see what feels good for you. You can also use some lube and run your fingers in an up and down motion on the inner and outer labia. It can be incredibly pleasurable, and you might like it so much that you orgasm from it.
You can try to enter the vagina when you have given yourself enough time to get accustomed to labial and clitoral stimulation. You want to make sure that your finger is lubricated well enough. Once you are inside yourself, try different things. Try massaging your vaginal walls with your fingers and slowly bring your finger in and out of the vagina.
5. Let the Tension Build Inside You
As you play with yourself, you will feel that a feeling is building up inside you. Every woman has a different description of how it feels. While it is essentially the same feeling, some see it as pleasure. Others think that tension is building up in their body, while some feel like they are about to pee.
When it is your first time fingering yourself or probably having an orgasm, you might get scared of this and stop. But that is precisely what you should not do at this point. This feeling is a sign that your body is enjoying it. So you need to keep going on and embrace this feeling.
There will be a point where you will feel as though the tension built inside you is about to burst. And when it does, you will feel the orgasm. It doesn’t matter what way you take to reach an orgasm. What matters is that you enjoy yourself.
6. Don’t Just Do it For the Orgasm
There is a lot more to self-pleasure than having an orgasm. You don’t have to push yourself for it every time. When you feel satisfied or think you have tried enough for one day, you can easily stop. At the same time, having one orgasm never means you have to stop at all costs.
Enjoy the luxury the female anatomy gives you! If you feel like it, go for another round. We hear that the orgasm is much more electric the second time around.
However, as much as people hype an orgasm, that is not what self-pleasure is about. If an orgasm becomes frustrating and stressful to get, it is the exact opposite of how you should feel. Give your body the time and attention it needs, explore what feels good, and build a better relationship with your body!
7. It Never Ends At an Orgasm
If you have successfully learned how to finger yourself to an orgasm, kudos to you! We hope you enjoyed every single second of it. But if you couldn’t just know, it was never the goal to have an orgasm but to feel the pleasure of playing with your body. However, now that you have tried that, experiment and learn more to make your sex life even more fun.
There are a lot of things your body likes and doesn’t like. You can find all of that out by experimenting. Play with your body like you are learning a new symphony, just a more magical one. Try including sex toys into your self-pleasure sessions, or get one of the sex partners that everyone speaks about. Having a partner in sexual activities can make them a lot more exciting.
If you have someone special you want to share this with, pick up the phone and call them. They might join you in your adventure and make it several times more sexy and fun. If you are comfortable with it, tease them with a few snaps and see them go crazy with you in an online masturbation session!
Better yet, you can get them to come over to your place. Even if you are not ready to get sexual with each other yet, you can masturbate with them! Just the exhilaration will drive you to the brink of orgasm. If you look at it that way, you will be teaching them how to make you come. It will change your sex life with them forever!
Sex toys are fantastic ways to get an orgasm and make your self-pleasure sessions more fulfilling. Just imagine something sucking on your clit while you fingered yourself. You will not want to stop!
Love Yourself with Confidence
Learning to pleasure yourself is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself. It will allow you to appreciate better what your body is capable of and what your limits are. Also, if you ever have sexual partners in the future, you will tell them exactly what treatment your body loves.
Explore your body; give it the focus it deserves. Talk to other girls who have tried it, or better yet, figured it out. It may be awkward at first, but you will be surprised how quickly it becomes comfortable! There is nothing wrong with having sexual needs, and it shouldn’t be this hard to talk about it either.
You need to love your body before you let anyone else do it. You don’t want to risk ruining sexual pleasure forever because of someone else!