Oral is one of the most pleasurable kinds of sex, both for women and men. Some love it so much that they prefer it over regular penetrative sex. For a guy, the feeling of a warm and wet mouth around their penis is sensational. But you can take it a step ahead by learning how to deepthroat. Read on and learn how to deepthroat without gagging!
Men love a good deepthroat blowjob. But for girls, it is not the same story. Numerous things come in the way of giving a deepthroat. You will read below about the problems women face during a deepthroat and learn about ways to make it comfortable.
How to Deepthroat without Gagging – 8 Things You Need to Know
By the end of these tips, you will either be an expert or know that deep-throating is not for you. Either way, here are a list of all the hurdles and how to get past them:
1. Gag Reflex
Some objects can damage your trachea and stomach if ingested. The gag reflex prevents that from happening. This is the first thing that will get in your way as soon as you try to deepthroat your man. You need to have this reflex in control. There are around 37% of females who don’t have to worry about this at all.
But for the women who do have it, you need to learn how to bypass it. Once you get control of this, giving a blowjob will become ridiculously easy. It happens when something touches the roof of your mouth, your tonsils, or the backside of your tongue. It causes a spasm-like reaction shaking your whole body.
If you have a gag reflex, your best bet is to desensitize it. This means you will train your body to feel okay with something touching the walls of your throat. You can always ask your man to help you prepare. They never mind helping you out with this! It will take a lot of time and effort before you have it entirely under control.
Follow this instruction effectively to desensitize your gag-reflex:
Use a finger, the back of a toothbrush, a dildo, or any other phallic shape object; just make sure it is sterile. It should not be something that will hurt your throat or get stuck in it. Slowly move the object back into your throat, try to suppress the gag reflex, and hold it there once your reflex triggers.
You need to breathe through your nose while suppressing the reflex consciously. Try holding the object in your throat where the gag triggers. Keep it there for up to 10 seconds each time. If you do this two or more times every week, you will see a considerable difference in the gag reflex.
With time your gag reflex will become less and less sensitive, and you can move on to the next step. When you master keeping it in one place and controlling your gag reflex, slowly begin moving it back and forth. Doing this will trigger your gag reflex heavily at first, but you have to breathe steadily and stay calm.
After a few weeks, you will feel that your gag reflex is no longer acting up. You will be able to keep a dido in your mouth and move it quite easily. When you finally stop gagging, coughing, or retching altogether, you can try this with your man.
2. Master Your Breathing Technique
Breathing can get a lot more complicated as soon as you have something lodged in your throat. It will become nearly impossible to breathe if your man is ‘blessed’ in certain areas. But you have to breathe after all; you don’t want to give him a deepthroat blowjob if it costs you your life!
One thing you can do is to practice breathing through your nose. You may not always be able to breathe with your man’s penis in your throat. But you can breathe when they pull out from the throat. The time you get to breathe depends a lot on your mouth cavity and its size.
If you find it impossible to breathe even like this, then you need to do something else: take breaks. No one said that you could not take a break. Just take a break after every few strokes. It may not be the favorite option for your man, but you need to. This does not mean you are quitting on blowing your man. Start again when you catch up on your breath.
3. You Should Control the Movement
Once you have the gag reflex and breathing technique nailed, you need some on-ground training. There are two types of men. One cares about you and knows that you need to be as comfortable as possible. They will automatically give you the control. But if he is an oaf who only cares that they feel tingly down there, you need to take control.
You need absolute control over the movement of your man the first few times, at least. It makes things easier for you if your man stays still, sits back, and enjoys while you do the work. You control how fast the penis goes inside your throat, and you can manage to breathe much better.
It would be best if you talked to your partner, regardless of what their attitude is. All the control of movement must be with you.
4. Alignment Can Do Wonders
You may still find it challenging to have your man’s penis inside your throat, regardless of all the training you did. When the penis touches the sides of your throat harshly during a blowjob, you can get a gag reflex. But luckily for you, there is an easy solution to this problem.
If you set the angle of your mouth straight with your throat, the straight penis can go in with a lot of ease. The most common way to make a serial passage to your throat is to lie down with your head hanging off from the edge of the bed. Your partner can easily put their penis down your throat without rubbing a lot on the sides.
Another position best for this is a doggy-style blow job. Instead of facing in the opposite direction of your lover, you face them in a doggy-style position. Your partner kneels, so your mouth is right in front of their penis. You will have to face forward, making a straight passage to your throat.
It can be hard to have control of the movement in both these positions. However, you can always hold your partner’s hips and pace them when your head is on the edge of the bed. You can also tell your partner to be still as you move forward and backward in the doggy-style position.
5. Relax Your Throat Muscles
The key to a good deepthroat is to have proper control over your throat muscles. Good command over your muscles will even give you control over your gag reflex. As you bring the penis of your partner deeper down your throat, you will have the urge to gag. When you feel that, close your eyes and try to breathe through your nose.
Relax the muscles of your throat, and the feeling will go away. This is not an easy technique to learn. It will take a lot of practice before you get the hang of it. Use your partner as the lab rat for it; he will love to help you out!
6. Trust Your Partner
Oral sex is a big responsibility, both for you and your partner. Your partner should know that some injuries can happen, even though they are rare. You might gag and bend at a painful angle or vomit in their lap. They are in a position where they might choke you if they are not careful.
So, you both must talk and understand the stakes; you need to respect each other’s boundaries. You need to keep the health and wellness of each other at the top of your priorities.
7. The Safe “Gesture.”
A safeword is something important in sexual relationships. As you cannot feel what your partner is feeling, hearing the safe word means that there is some problem, and you both need to address it first. While your man can easily say the safe word and communicate their situation, you need that even more than them.
You need something like a gesture, which as soon as your man sees, they stop immediately. You need to respect each other’s boundaries, and your partner should know that they have to stop no matter what when they see the gesture.
8. Finish Him Off
While it is not a compulsion for you to let them climax inside your mouth, it can significantly increase the pleasure of a blowjob. He will never be able to leave you after he sees you in that ‘nasty’ kind of way. Just know that it can taste worse than you think!
Tell your man beforehand that you want them to come in your mouth. You need to be clear on that as most men have a mental barrier that doesn’t let them come even if you want them to. If they know beforehand, it can help them overcome that and shoot their cum inside you!
One way to finish them off is to keep them deep inside your throat as they come. Try humming while they are at it or licking their testicles! Another way is to pull them out of your mouth and suck them dry! All you have to ensure is that they are sitting down or lying in bed because there is a chance they go limp because of the pleasure.
Advanced Deepthroat Blowjob Techniques
Many men don’t even know what a deepthroat blowjob feels like. So even if you can manage to take him in and out of your throat just a few times during the blowjob, he will be eternally grateful. But you can always take it up a notch to have them hooked on you for life. You can use this leverage to get whatever you want! Here are some techniques that will freak him out:
1. Licking His Testicles
Don’t be all judgmental all of a sudden; it is not a big leap from what you are doing already! If you are kneeling while deep throating your man, then you are in the perfect position to take all his length in your throat and extend your tongue. You can very easily lick his balls in this position, but his penis has to be entirely in your throat!
Most men cannot even imagine this, let alone experience it their whole lives. It will feel great both on the penis as your tongue moves along it and on the balls too.
2. Hum When He Is Deep Inside Your Throat
This is another variation of a deepthroat that you man will beg you for in the days following it. At least once, when you are giving him the pleasure of his life, keep him deep in you and hum. The vibrations produced in your throat when you hum will be one of the best feelings they ever have.
It may not make them come all of a sudden, but if you time it when they are coming, they will get the most exciting and unique sensation of their lives.
3. Use Your Gags to Your Benefit
This is one of the most complex techniques to master in the realm of deep throating. While gagging is something that becomes a hurdle to pleasure your man, you can use them to your benefit. However, it can be very uncomfortable for you.
When you gag, the muscles in your throat contract, and your throat tightens for an instant. Instead of pulling your man out of you when you gag, keep him there. The contraction of the muscles will drive him crazy!
It’s Okay if You Can’t Do It
While this guide has almost everything you will need to be like an addiction to your man, some cannot do it. For some women, the gag reflex never seems to desensitize. As it is the very first step to giving a deepthroat, you might have to give up on the concept entirely.
This happens because the gag reflex in some women is overly active, just like it almost doesn’t exist for some women. No amount of training can desensitize an overactive gag reflex. Even the slightest feeling of something in the throat makes you spasm. Let alone a deepthroat, giving a regular blowjob can become quite a daunting task!
If that sounds like you, don’t beat yourself up over it. You have more than enough in your body to offer to give your man a toe-curling orgasm and pleasure he never thought existed. So you don’t need to worry that a deepthroat isn’t your thing. You have too many more options to try!